We raise children knowing there will come a time where we’ll have to have some tough conversations about subjects like sex, drugs, and money. Now, thanks to modern technology, you can add also “sexting” to the list.

Sexting is the act of sending sexually explicit messages or photos via cell phones. And according to a nationwide survey by the National Campaign to Support Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, 20 percent of teens admit to this texting with a sexual slant. But now kids are finding themselves in big trouble. 

Earlier this year, three Pennsylvania teen girls who allegedly sent nude or semi-nude photos of themselves to three male classmates were charged with child pornography. (The boys were also charged.)

Some believe sexting is simply a way for teens to flirt. Sort of a technological “spin the bottle” and shouldn’t warrant criminal charges. But for now, officials are debating and in some cases, charging these teens.

What can a parent do? According to NetSmartz, talk to your child about sexting. Talk to your child about the consequences of taking a sexual photo of him/her self or others – especially if you or the subject of the photo isn’t of legal age. There can be a number of repercussions – from getting kicked off of teams or clubs, lost educational opportunities and legal trouble.

Remind them about how they can’t control how the photo will be used or where it will end up. Ask them, “how would you feel if that photo was seen by a teacher or boss or your parents? Sometimes kids send a risque photo to a boy/girlfriend but what happens to that photo if the relationship goes bad?

Let know know the legal ramifications of forwarding a sexual photo of someone underage. They can get into a world of legal trouble, face child pornography charges, go to jail, and later be labeled as a sex offender.

If they receive any nude photos or sexual messages via phone, tell them not to delete the message. In that case, they need to talk to parents or guardians, teachers, and school counselors involved immediately.