Sound Off: Does This Punishment Fit The Crime?

Your teen thinks she’s being smart, blocking you from seeing her Facebook account. But as a parent, you have your ways. (We all do. It comes with the territory, yes?) So what happens when you find out your child has written something about you on Facebook that’s clearly disrespectful and downright bratty? Well, if you’re Tommy Jordan, you video tape your response and let her know what you think.

If you haven’t seen his response, check out this video.  The video apparently was posted onto Youtube and Jordan’s daughter’s Facebook page Thursday evening. By Friday, mid-morning, the video had more than one million hits.

I watched the video. The daughter, Hannah, was clearly wrong in posting her rant. (Especially since she’s done this before.) I can understand why Tommy would be upset and that Hannah needs to be punished. But shooting the computer? Really?  So I’m asking you guys, what would you have done? Did this dad go overboard in posting his response? Was his behavior perfectly reasonable? Also, do you think the punishment fit the crime? (My son is nine years old. He might get lippy from time to time, but overall, he’s not in the outright rebellious stage just yet. So I’m not sure what measures I’ll feel the need to take at that point.)

In the video, Tommy mentions that the 15-year-old was not only disrespectful to him but also disrespectful to her mother, stepmom, and a woman named Linda who has cleaned the house for them.

But once Hannah learned of her fate, how did she respond?

According to his Facebook page: “My daughter took a horrible day in her life, had her crying fit, then got over it, accepted her punishment, and hasn’t let it (or people’s comments) destroy her strength. I don’t get any credit for that. She’s strong and able to overcome almost anything life throws at her.”

Apparently, Tommy has had a number of media outlets requesting interviews. He has declined.

“There’s absolutely NO way I’m going to send my child the message that it’s OK to gain from something like this,” he wrote. “It would send her a message that it’s OK to profit at the expense of someone else’s embarrassment or misfortune and that’s now how I was raised, nor how she has been raised.”

(Bravo, Tommy! But I digress.)

Whether you agree or disagree with the punishment, you’ve got to admire the fact that the man stood up for his wife, a woman who helps their household, and the mother of his daughter. Based on the video, he talked to the mother about the situation. The duo agreed on the punishment then Tommy stuck to his guns (pun intended) when he carried it out.


6 thoughts on “Sound Off: Does This Punishment Fit The Crime?

  1. Jen

    Well, I’m not sure I agree with the shooting of the computer, but if the situation was that extreme, more power to him! With an almost 15 year old in the house, pushing every button I have, I can see where this parent is coming from. Currently, mine is grounded from her phone, email, facebook, friends, etc. due to neglecting her grades even though she was reminded of this more than once. Again, everyone (including family and HER friends) thinks we are being unreasonable to ground her for the entire 3rd quarter, but the grades have improved, so…..did we go too far? Apparently not. Cudos to the father in this video!!

  2. debbie

    I don’t think I agree with shooting it. Why not just wipe the computer of everything, and then donate to a child that doesn’t have one. Wouldn’t that have taught a better lesson?

  3. Bonnie Krueger

    I agree that donating the computer might have been a better choice but I am glad to see a dad taking a stand and not putting up with the nonsense that kids seem to think they can get away with. As a parent with a wayward teen, I think kids need to be taught early to avoid the downward spiral. I am glad to see a dad wholly involved in his daughter’s life.

  4. Lauralee Hensley

    I don’t have a problem with what he did. Seems they’ve had past issues. Yet, just because you shoot the computer where she posted the content, doesn’t mean she isn’t feeling how she is feeling. That’s unless she is a child that purposely blows things up bigger than they are to get sympathy from her friends. Then she’s not really feeling that way, but rather using the content to get attention from her friends.

  5. Lisa

    I really like Debbie’s idea of donating the computer. That seems far more constructive.

    Lauralee, I don’t know this family or the daughter but it sounded (from his interview later) that she is on of those kids who were trying to get some attention from her friends. She did it partially out of being angry but partially because she thought it made her look cool.

    Thanks for reading and weighing in guys!

  6. Jennifer

    I found what he did really disturbing. I don’t think you can compare shooting a child’s computer with a gun to grounding a child. It was a violent act. I know there are people who think shooting off guns is no big deal. But, honestly, because there was anger at a child involved with this, I think you should keep guns out of it. To me, this guy seems like he’s capable of doing much worse and it makes me feel worried about his daughter. I think there were many other ways he could have dealt with this. I’m really appalled that so many people are congratulating him for this. I’d want to get my child far away from him, regardless of what she said or did. Sticks and stones can break your bones … and guns can do much worse.